Not Doing Well

It’s been hard to find the motivation to write. It’s been hard to find the motivation to do anything. I’m not doing well. Winter hit sooner than usual this year, and it hit hard. The last several years people have still been out mowing their lawns the first weekend of December, but we’ve had snow and cold temperatures since the middle of November, it seems. And it hasn’t gone away. My depression hasn’t been this bad in a long, long time, and my anxiety is also the worst it’s been in—well, maybe ever. I’ve been having almost daily panic attacks for weeks now, often multiple a day.

I’ve been having a hard time distinguishing between what’s real and what’s just the depression. I try to be logical, to remind myself that depression is a liar, but it’s hard when I feel like there’s so much evidence that I am a horrible mother, a horrible wife and just a horrible person in general who is not doing enough. Who simply isn’t enough and never will be. I keep asking myself why I’m even trying, when it doesn’t seem to matter.

Logically, I can look at what I am doing and see how much better I am at dealing with my mental illness than I used to. Despite just how much it takes from me to get out of bed every morning, I do get out of bed. I get my kids to school. I exercise. I’ve been going to light therapy even though I’d rather stay in bed all day. It takes longer than on healthy days, but I still have been getting dressed, doing dishes, cleaning, getting dinner ready (some nights), going to church, trying to socialize when I can. Yet, every day, as I sit alone crying, feeling so alone and worthless, I don’t feel that I’m doing better or that I’m doing good enough. I don’t feel as if I’m being the person I’m supposed to be. I don’t feel what the logic is telling me.

I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow. I might want to try medication again, despite the fact that my last several attempts years ago didn’t work. I have to hope that something will help.


3 thoughts on “Not Doing Well

  1. I’m sorry and I feel some of this too lately. Winter is hard for me and I lack the motivation to write or do anything extra.
    Thinking of you and hold on to whatever light you have-any amount of light can help in the darkness. And I miss chatting about writing! Hope you have a Merry Christmas-maybe in the new year we can have a writing day or something!

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  2. Before some idiot writes in and says medications are useless, unnecessary and/or evil, I want to say that I’ve had tremendous success with antidepressants. It took some effort to find the right ones, but I’d say that I’m about 97% depression free. And I don’t have any noticeable side effects. If depression is disrupting your life and your other interventions aren’t working, anti-depressants are worth a shot. I’m holding you in my thoughts. I hope you get some relief.

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    • Thank you. I am all about doing what helps and works. I was on anti-depressants years ago, and they really helped until I started having some bad side-effects. But I still believe in trying and re-trying and sticking with what works.

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