Last weekend I saw the movie Gran Turismo. Great movie, highly recommend. It had an interesting storyline with a plot that moved, well-developed characters, highs and lows that had me both laughing and near tears. It was more than a movie about chasing your dreams or overcoming the odds. It was about how we choose to define ourselves—and how we choose to define others.
The part that meant the most to me (tiny spoiler alert) was when Jack Salter tells Jann Mardenborough something like, “That crash won’t define who you are, but how you respond to it will.”
How often do we get stuck on the things we’ve done wrong? How often do we choose to define someone by a single mistake they made? It’s like looking at the world through a pinprick on a piece of paper rather than seeing the whole, big, full picture.
I know I have been guilty of this in the past, but through the flames and fire, bombs and boulders I’ve been through this past year I am learning to put down a narrow scope of vision and see people for all they are, not just one mistake—or even a hundred mistakes. I know I don’t want to be judged or defined that way. Rather than being defined by the “crash” I’d rather be defined by the way I respond to it.
I write this for myself, to continue to remind myself. I write this for one I love who has had far too many people who have chosen to see him through that pinprick rather than as the whole picture; people who have chosen to define him by the crash rather than the way he has responded to it—hard work, dedication, change and a determination to continue to do and be better. I write this for others, hopeful that my words may have sparked a desire to see others, and themselves, for more than the thing or things they’ve done wrong. We are so much more, and we can bring so much more love, hope and beauty to the world when we choose to do this.